“Kindness is loaning someone your strength instead of reminding them of their weakness.” ~ Andy Stanley
“Kindness is loaning someone your strength instead of reminding them of their weakness.” ~ Andy Stanley
We all suck. And we all rock. We all have shame. And we all have pride. We are all human.
It’s so easy to try to make yourself feel better by pointing out how someone is failing worse than you are. For a moment you get that delicious moment of smugness… right before you walk into a door that says pull, instead of push.
As you get up and furtively look around to see if someone is looking, remember that we all fail at things. All of us do. It’s just being human. When you choose to find pleasure in someone else failing, you are choosing meanness and smallness, because kicking someone when they are already down doesn’t make you the stronger, “better” person – it makes you a bully. Yes – like it or not, even as adults we can be bullies.
Next time, choose to be kind. Choose to share your strength, because I guarantee that no matter how it seems on the outside, that person is struggling hard, and already knows the flaws that you so generously pointed out.
Originally intended to simply focus on book reviews, over time, KaliDesautelsReads has morphed into its own entity.
I write about issues that are near to my heart, be they political, feminist, motherhood, mental health, or, as the title holds, books.
A thirty-something Canadian woman in my mid-thirties, I have been "super married" to my high school sweetheart since 2006, and together we have two crazy, clever, kind, hilarious, wonderful kids.
My first book - How Not To Blog: Finding Myself, One Post at a Time is available on Amazon (in eBook formats for you clever tech readers, and paperback for those of us who love that new book smell!)
I have tried a podcast - it's still on Apple and Google Podcasts - but writing is where my heart is.
My life changed dramatically when my husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer in 2018, and I am now a writer for a leading Canadian Cancer Non-Profit.
I am lucky enough to have a family that loves me and pushes me to be my best, even if it is outside of my cushiony comfort zone. I have a village of friends that nourish me, mentally, and spiritually.
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