Friendship

“What did he…really derive from this friendship? He had given, but what had he ever received? What bound them? … there were the accumulated years and the habits of friendship, but there was really nothing at its centre…” ~ Ian McEwan – Amsterdam (1998)
When a person who is a people pleaser begins to resent the recipient of their kindnesses, who is really at fault? Is it the person receiving, who does not feel the same sense of obligation; or is it the person who does not establish clear boundaries to what they are willing to do, and what they need in return? 

As I read this, I think of friendships where I have resented, and have surely been resented, and wonder what could have been changed. 

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