You know what I would love? I would love to be able to tell you that since the cancer was removed he is totally fine. I would love to give you an update on the magical life that he is able to live after his treatments. I would love to be able to tell you that he is thriving and getting along better than ever.
I could post this and say something about what a great husband he is to make dinner for us, and you would think “yeah, well, he wants to eat doesn’t he? It’s not your job to feed him!”
What you don’t see is that this really is a labour of love. Sitting up, or standing, or lifting things, or even the simple act of eating are so strenuous on his body, it is like asking him to run a marathon and lift weights, rather than simply feeding his family. This is him, doing what he can, while he can, to show up for his family. After this, he quietly ate a small plate of the dinner, then went back to his space in the basement and was consumed by pain for the next 5 hours. Preparing the meal and eating it had taken so much out of him. What you don’t see is the confusion at how he could be so consumed by pain months after he is meant to be healed.
What I hope you see is love. What I hope you see is that we are all struggling. What I hope you see is that this is why you are safe in your homes. What I hope you see is the reason that we cannot walk together and go for coffee. Because one day, I would love to give that update. One day I would love to tell you about the magical life he is leading after his recovery.
Originally intended to simply focus on book reviews, over time, KaliDesautelsReads has morphed into its own entity.
I write about issues that are near to my heart, be they political, feminist, motherhood, mental health, or, as the title holds, books.
A thirty-something Canadian woman in my mid-thirties, I have been "super married" to my high school sweetheart since 2006, and together we have two crazy, clever, kind, hilarious, wonderful kids.
My first book - How Not To Blog: Finding Myself, One Post at a Time is available on Amazon (in eBook formats for you clever tech readers, and paperback for those of us who love that new book smell!)
I have tried a podcast - it's still on Apple and Google Podcasts - but writing is where my heart is.
My life changed dramatically when my husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer in 2018, and I am now a writer for a leading Canadian Cancer Non-Profit.
I am lucky enough to have a family that loves me and pushes me to be my best, even if it is outside of my cushiony comfort zone. I have a village of friends that nourish me, mentally, and spiritually.
Welcome to my thoughts. Sit down. Stay a while. Enjoy a cup of coffee!
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