Kali J Desautels

Today in Canada it is Thanksgiving Day. If for no other reason than to count our blessings and feel gratitude, today is a day to celebrate. I am so grateful for the many, many blessings that we received this year, and for the people who helped us to get through the challenges and pains. I am grateful for BC Cancer, for our family who went above and beyond, to Oxygen Yoga for keeping me sane, to our workplaces, our coworkers, and everyone regardless of whether they were mentioned here. Happy Thanksgiving, I hope you are celebrating in a way that is right for you.

I wish to acknowledge that this weekend is National Day of Mourning for First Nations peoples, as in celebration of the colonization of Canada, it also marks the genocide of millions of Indigenous peoples.

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You Can’t Rush Your Healing

It comes to me upon the strings

when I hear it when I sing

I can’t say it’s my creations

staying patient what it brings??

let me say I’m coming humble

I don’t know what’s right or wrong

I just keep keep on believin

passing down an old old song

an old song

what everybody’s got that chapter

of dark and darker days

saturn seems to be returning

and his essence can’t be tamed

some may light to fight it

try to plan a secret attack

but the more you push it

the more it’s pushin you back

so

you can’t rush your healing

darkness has its teachings

love? is never leaving

you can’t rush your healing

your healing

mama well she told me time is such a wonderful gift

you’re not running out

you’re really running in

confusion clouds the heart but it also points the way

quiet down the mind

the more the song will play

so

you can’t rush your healing

darkness has its teachings

love is never leaving

you can’t rush your healing

your healing

your healing

your healing

your healing

you can’t rush your healing

darkness has its teachings

love is never leaving

you can’t rush your healing

Source: Musixmatch

Songwriters: HALL TREVOR

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One year ago, the seams of my world started to give way. The edges started to fray, and I was two months from hearing the scariest words I had ever heard in my life. “Your husband has rectal cancer”. My family and friends and our doctors and our brave kids got us through, and I grasped for everything that I saw as a potential help. I let go of the things that I couldn’t fit into a world of immediacy. And I held my shit together as much as I possibly could. Better than I had expected. Longer than I ever thought possible. I tried to cry only when it wouldn’t cause anyone else to cry. I put on a brave face. I took notes. I triaged our lives. And miraculously it worked. He got better, and we started to pick up the mess that was the life that had fallen away. But it took a toll. And now it is my turn to heal. My turn to let fall what no longer serves, pick up the shards that I would like to gently return to where they belong. It’s my turn to listen to another woman’s journey through spousal cancer and let the tears stream without wiping them away. It’s May turn to lay in a hot studio and let the words of a softly playing song speak directly to my heart. My turn to remember that I am more than this, so much more, and also just me, just a person. I am not a hero, I am not a saint, I am not a terrible person, I am not a martyr. I am just Kali. And one year after the seams began to pull apart, I am ready to heal and let go, even if the seams never quite stitch back up the same as they did before.

This is why I vote. So this young woman has the life she deserves. So her right to her own body is hers alone. So that we do not destroy the planet before she can save it. So that girls like her have equal opportunities to pay and employment. So she can marry who she wants to marry. Or not marry at all. So she has proper access to medical care. So she can travel this country in safety. So that the forests and mountains and environment are still bountiful and available. So she does not have to spend her life fixing what apathy broke. This is why I vote. So she can see that civic responsibility must be held seriously. So that she knows what an active citizen looks like. So she can see that her voice matters. So that she knows that marking a piece of paper directly leads to her right to talk to and about our government. So that she knows that she is privileged to be born in a place that values women. So that she knows her responsibility to speak for those who have no voices; who were not born to her privilege.

This is why I vote. What’s your why?

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Today is a day early but this brilliant woman is my #WCW this week – she won’t take enough credit, but today?? This one? This one right here!?!? Made her first flipping big contract in her new job. Literally more proud than anyone who isn’t a person’s mother has any business to be. Not only is she amazing, beautiful, funny, wicked smart, clever, shorter than the average Hobbit, and hair for days, she is a supportive, loving friend, who appreciates a dark sense of humour and rocks as a cheerleader for her friends. Love you lady! So freaking proud of you!!!

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Thank you for showing up at my door. I love you more than I can express. Even Timon is happy to have you, with his tail hug.

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Welcome to Tuesday Night at the Desautels’. Rap music, Chef‘s Plate, Homework, kitchen dancing, and the cat. We might be crazy, but at least we are crazy together.

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‘Twas the night before Halloween, and our pumpkins had rotted until their tops came down. Mama searched high and low, but all through the town there was nary a pumpkin to be found.

So… she improvised. Acorn and buttercup squash is like a country cousin to a pumpkin… right?!?! 🎃 🎃

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My work friend loaned me his favourite book and it has been very addictive! Today, I am taking a sick day (that’s what weekends are for, right?) and my goal is to finish this book by the end of the weekend.

Have you been hit by the flu this year? What are your flu remedies and book selections for the weekend?

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The hardest thing in the world for me is to be ok with people not liking me. I have always had this earnest desire to be Pollyanna, and have everyone I meet think that I am a lovely person. The problem with this is that when I turn myself inside out to make everyone happy, I almost never make myself happy. I am working to learn that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, and that that is ok. I am me. Some people will think that I am lovely person. Some people will think I am not. And a vast majority won’t think of me at all. So the person that I need to make happy is the one that I have to live with all day everyday, until the end – me.

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