Originally intended to simply focus on book reviews, over time, KaliDesautelsReads has morphed into its own entity.
I write about issues that are near to my heart, be they political, feminist, motherhood, mental health, or, as the title holds, books.
A thirty-something Canadian woman in my mid-thirties, I have been “super married” to my high school sweetheart since 2006, and together we have two crazy, clever, kind, hilarious, wonderful kids.
My first book – How Not To Blog: Finding Myself, One Post at a Time is available on Amazon (in eBook formats for you clever tech readers, and paperback for those of us who love that new book smell!)
I have tried a podcast – it’s still on Apple and Google Podcasts – but writing is where my heart is.
My life changed dramatically when my husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 cancer in 2018, and I am now a writer for a leading Canadian Cancer Non-Profit.
I am lucky enough to have a family that loves me and pushes me to be my best, even if it is outside of my cushiony comfort zone. I have a village of friends that nourish me, mentally, and spiritually.
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Two years ago today, I found out I would be getting my dream job at the Canadian Cancer Society. Wow, time has flown like crazy!! I am so glad that I lucked out and landed not only working for an organization whose mission I genuinely care about and love, but I earned a spot on a team full of amazing people from whom I have learned so much.
Below is the message that I shared on my personal page the day that I got the news!
“What do you do when life hands you lemons? Be like Beyoncé and keep making your goddamn lemonade!!!! I totally felt like 2019 was determined to keep on swinging until the last, but karma swung back!
As of December 16, I will be officially gainfully employed in the non-profit sector helping families with cancer.
So yeah – I got hot sauce in my bag. Swag.
Hey 2019 – imma take these lemons and be like Beyoncé!”
I have made, and continue to make lemonade from the lemons of 2019… and 2020… and 2021.
Hidden Valley Road is a non-fiction book that is one part psychology textbook, one part family drama, and one part trauma narrative. Kolker grounds this book, that is ostensibly about schizophrenia, in the Galvin family. The Galvins had 12 children (10 boys and 2 girls), six of whom, all boys – referred to in the book as the Sick Boys – had schizophrenia to varying degrees of functionality.
The first child was born in 1945, and the twelfth was born in 1965. This family turned out to be a critical Petrie dish for researchers to study the effect of nature vs nurture on schizophrenia. Were “refrigerator mothers” to blame, or were genetics? Or maybe both?
This book was a NY Times Bestseller – one of the Top 10 in 2020, and an Oprah’s Book Club selection in 2020. The book really is that good, in that the information is invaluable, and the family story makes it more accessible, however, even as a voracious reader, this book took me weeks to get through. There is so much information, and my comprehension of research jargon is quite low, so I found myself putting the book down and coming back to it.
I recommend Hidden Valley Road (so named after the quiet street that the family lives on) to anyone interested in psychology or medical mysteries. Do no look at it as a light fun read that you can breeze through. Know that this will require time and concentration. But it will be worth it.